Touchy Subjects Out NOW

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Craig Gross and David Dean  aren’t medical doctors or academics with “Ph.D.” written after our names. We’re just a couple of dads who love our kids and who want to make sure they get the truth about touchy subjects. Craig lives in Los Angeles and is the founder of XXXchurch.com,  X3watch  and iParent.TV. David is a full time clean comedian from Indiana. Craig’s kids are 8 and 11 and both live in the house and David’s have finally moved out of his house. 


We live in a touchscreen world. The more technology develops, the more integrated it becomes into our culture, the more it tends to involve some sort of screen. And, increasingly, that screen itself is becoming the way we interact with our tech.  So now the word touch is getting broader in its definition. We carry little computers in our pockets that we operate through touch. We use social media to share touching stories or reach out and touch base with someone virtually. And technology is opening all kinds of windows for a different kind of touch: sex. These are all, in their unique way, touchy subjects. 

How can we as parents guide our kids through responsible interactions with these touchy subjects? 

How can we teach them to use sex, technology, and social media in the best ways possible so that they can mature into responsible, emotionally healthy adults? 


What’s your approach, or do you even have one? 


Maybe your son or daughter is young and you don’t know when you should even broach these subjects.


Maybe you’re too nervous or embarrassed to bring up some of these touchy subjects in the first place. 


Maybe you don’t even realize how important these topics are. 


Maybe you want to talk to your kids but just don’t know what to say. 


Sound appealing? Then we wrote this book for you. 

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Craig Gross and David Dean provide guidelines for discussing and implementing a culturally sensitive and healthy environment for the discussion and mentoring of healthy relationships and issues for families today. The questions in the back of the book are deep and profound and honest and all parents NEED TO READ through this because our children will go through the valley, with or without you and your guidance. Great resource! Get it now!


Every parent and grandparent needs to read this! Easy to read. As a parent I was unsure how to approach the subject of sex and porn. This is a perfect read.

This book is informative— it is both serious and funny. Definitely a read that is confrontational but necessary and yet lighthearted enough that you feel like the authors are just friends sitting in the living room having this conversation with you. I appreciate that. I don’t want just statistics from psychologists— I want to hear from parents who are doing this right and that is what I felt I got when I read Touchy Subjects.

WOW! This is the best book on this subject! I appreciate how they encourage and cheer parents to dive in and talk about this with their kids. Open, honest conversations with our kids about these subjects are needed! I have read many books on talking to your kids about sex and by far this one was the most REAL and HELPFUL! GREAT BOOK! GET YOURS TODAY!!!
 

I am the mother to a young son, and another son on the way. I haven’t taken much thought to talking to my boys about this subject yet, but after reading this book I know realize how imperative this is. These discussions need to be had, and will be had. Thanks to Gross’, and Dean’s book, I now have the much needed guidance and information to one day talk to my boys about these “Touchy Subjects.” Every parent needs to read this book!

Read more at www.touchysubjects.net

Cages and Walls

I wrote this post called GREY GOD. My friend Rachel who says she is going to blog before 2017 sent me this. I am posting this on my blog since she lost the log in for her blog I set up for her.

There is way more tension in our faith than absolutes. But people love cages and walls because that keeps them safe. But love is never safe. The black and white is that God is the ultimate pursuer and lover of His people, gays, women, fringe. It’s like do people understand that he loved the people out in ‘the grey’ ? Doesn’t mean that we don’t hold scripture to be true, it just means that loving God and loving people requires you to do things that go beyond our comfort. All I know is that guy in your blog should be loved not ‘caged’. He needed people to walk with him through the difficult places and not leave him with professionals in a camp. To know that it’s each one of us that works out our faith in fear trembling before God.

And I believe most Christians that I know are scared to talk about the grey because people think they don’t believe in scripture. I freaking love scripture. I love God and people. And Gays. All of them. And loving people means you have to get comfortable with the Grey. Cause we DONT always have the answers. We don’t. And God is still good in that. He still speaks. Okay. I need to stop rambling.

Grey God

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I recently wrote a piece for Relevant talking about how Christians need to follow a Grey God instead of a Black or White God. 

A couple of weeks later, I got an email from a guy named Aaron I met once before who read it and felt like he needed to reach out to me. Here is a piece of that email:

The reason I felt impelled to write you this note was not to discuss the movie,  but more so declare my admiration for how you handled your accusers.  It also made me wish that you were the type of person I had in my life when I was in the process of de-converting from Christianity. 

Yes,  you read that correctly.  De-converting.    A quick backstory on myself.  Born in a christian home.  I was the model of the perfect child of a christian parent.   I went to youth group,  went on every mission trip,  went to a Christian University.   I loved Jesus.  When I was 19 I became aware of my homosexual attractions and I have spent the last 15 years in reparative therapy trying to reverse those attractions.  I have finally now come to the conclusion that reversing my orientation is not possible.   My journey of having my homosexuality “fixed” is long, complicated, heartbreaking, and exhaustive.  Unfortunately through all of this my faith in God suffered.  I started asking too many questions,  I was suffering with too much doubt and all paths led me to where I am today….Agnostic.   I actually prefer to say “Agnostic Deist” because although I don’t know for sure there is a God,  I choose to believe there is a creator God.   The concept of a personal God is completely lost on me and I don’t believe in the reliability, relevance, or inerrancy of the Bible like I once did.   This is not something that came overnight or was an irrational decision based on me not getting my own way.  The last two years of figuring out the ridiculousness of Christianity and detoxing from strong beliefs that I once thought helped me have been extremely intense.  What I thought helped me actually hurt me  

I loved the part in your blog when you were talking about the grey areas and that “grey” represents your belief system.   This is the part where I wish i had someone like you in my life years ago and I could have that same mentality.  Unfortunately I was raised, indoctrinated, and educated in a religion that only endorsed black and white thinking and if I made one step or had one thought in the opposite direction,  I was going straight to hell.  Living a black and white life is destructive and my relationship with Jesus suffered because of it.  I think that the Jesus of the bible lived in a grey belief system. Thats the Jesus i think I could love now if I ever had the faith again to believe his existence was true and worthwhile.  I could fall in love with a Gray Jesus.   The Black and White Jesus failed me.   The Gray Jesus could have restored my hope in a personal God.   Black and White Jesus only presented me with despair.  I could fall in love with a Grey Jesus.   I could.  But i’ve been tainted.  Faith in God represents hopelessness to me.   

I read this email and knew I had to meet this guy in person. If you know me, you know I act pretty quickly on things, so I contacted Aaron and met him for lunch the next day. I sat and listened to Aaron’s story for almost two hours, asking a lot of questions and discovering more reasons why I wish people who “issue statements” or “take a stand” would just listen a bit more.

I found it interesting that Aaron’s church enlisted him to do a video testimony that played on Easter Sunday about his freedom from homosexuality—even though he was still gay. And then he did a “cardboard testimony” stating the same thing, and then some donors in his church (as well as the church itself) spent thousands of dollars to send him to “Straight Camp” so he definitely wouldn’t be gay anymore.  

The problem is, it didn’t work. 

Nor did the nine months he spent at YWAM’s discipleship training school.

Nor did any of the countless therapy sessions, psychologists, counselors, homosexual healing groups, books written by ex-gays, bondage-breaking intercessory prayer, or anything else he has tried for the last 15 years.

So, what has the church left him with? Unbelief. He can no longer believe in God because everything he has been told about God “curing” him and “fixing” him hasn’t worked. All it’s given him is a long list of questions about God and about himself. 

I can sympathize. If I was told for years that what I was doing was wrong and the feelings I felt were wrong and that God would give me a way out, but still felt all that stuff after thousands of dollars and thousands of hours invested… yeah, I’d have trouble believing, too.

I shared Aaron’s story with a friend today and she told me, ”Come on, Craig. I get the idea of a ‘grey God’ but he has to be black and white on some things…” I wanted to mute her. She’s got it all wrong. 

Last month World Vision got it all wrong, first issuing a statement saying they would employ homosexuals who were either celibate or were in legal, church-sanctioned marriages. Countless vehemently angry phone calls and 10,000 cancelled child sponsorships later, they retracted the employment policy and reassured donors everyone working there would be straight.

Let me say this clearly, Christians: we don’t need more statements and stances.

You know what we need? More people who are willing to see that this is not about morality or culture wars or doctrinal differences. 

It’s about people

Think about the people who were welcomed to work at World Vision one day and unwelcome the next? How do they feel about Jesus now?

What about the 10,000 kids whose sponsorships were cancelled? What should we tell them about Jesus?

What about Aaron and a 15-year struggle that has left him on fragile terms with his family, as well as without a church family or God? How should he feel about Jesus? 

I’ve said this before, but it needs to be said over and over: be quick to listen and slow to speak. Most people and companies issuing statements and talking about a definitive black and white God have never sat and listened to the people and lives on the other end of their statements. That takes a little work; you have to get out from behind your stance and sit down for a two-hour lunch with a confused kid who’s been told he doesn’t belong. You have to blow past the black-and-white rhetoric of the establishment and get down in the grey dirt with the outcasts. 

You know. What Jesus did. 

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I just bought greygod.com and have no clue what to do with it or what else I will write about this but I think there is something here. Maybe it is a book or maybe it could be a blog. Not sure but thought it was worth 7 bucks. And for all you people reading this thinking I spelled grey wrong. That to is just your opinion because there are two ways to spell grey and both are right. Grey or Gray. Imagine that two different ways to spell the same word…kind of like two different ways to see the same God. Just saying.

How Do I Get My Book Published?

I got on the phone today with my buddy David Dean and he said, how did you get out book Touchy Subjects out there. I explained to him a few things and then thought I would just share them with you if you are interested. I think when I told David I was just going to publish it ourselves he was bummed and didn’t understand how cool this could be.

I get asked all the time how do you get a book published?

Typical Publisher: 

  • Come up with great idea.
  • Spend 20 bucks and buy this - http://michaelhyatt.com/writing-a-winning-book-proposal
  • Submit your book proposal to a literary agent you can find online or through a friend.
  • Your agent pitches to a publisher.
  • Publisher says yes or no.
  • If yes, you start writing and about 15 months later a book comes out.
  • You sometimes get an advance 
  • You make on average about 10% of the net of book sales
  • Most books don’t sell 5k copies and a few books do
  • The end.

You As The Publisher:

  • Come up with great idea
  • Start writing
  • Finish writing
  • Hire an editor - Here’s one -  Adam Palmer
  • Design a cover and back cover.
  • Upload your book as a word document to Kindle store.
  • Upload your book as a word document to Smashwords 
  • If you want a printed book upload your book to createspace
  • Register some url for a website here 
  • Pay Godaddy $1 a month for a customized template website
  • Start selling your book the following day. YES I said the following day.
  • Total out of pocket expense - not much
  • Send your finished book to a publisher and see if they are interested now and then go from there or keep selling on your own.

So, David Dean and I started writing Touchy Subjects years ago. We got interest from different publishers but in the end they said it was a small market. The thing that drove me to make this book happen was when I searched on Amazon the #1 book on talking to your kids about sex was from 1998. We needed something current.

We bought the name www.touchysubjects.net

I took the picture of my daughter for the cover.

We wanted to sell on paperback and digital and createspace is owned by Amazon so that is easy. We can purchase books from them directly for $3.25 whether we buy one or buy one thousand. 

We wanted this book out now, I didn’t know how fast this would be but once I submitted the files yesterday, the links were all active by last night.

I have amazon prime and ordered a book which is on demand printing and it somehow is set to arrive to my doorstep tomorrow.  If you have something to say and you are passionate about getting it out there, put it out yourself and see if others share in that same passion.

In the meantime, go buy our book.

***A bit more of an explanation. Createspace gets your book in the amazon store for you. Smashwords gets your book in all other digital markets except Kindle and other places online like the iBooks store. These will make more sense as you start the process. 

For some reason, we live in a world where it seems like the stereotype for married people and sex is that men need it and women don’t want to cough it up. I don’t know how that happened, but in my marriage, sex is a two-way street. It takes both of you to make it work and it is mutually beneficial for both parities.
I hear women hold sex over a lot of men’s head and I just laugh. Just because women aren’t as visual as men doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy sex as much as men.
Sex is a gift to be enjoyed. The Bible pretty much says that married folks should be having sex and lots of it. (No, really it says that the only time to refrain from sex is for a period of time for fasting and praying and that is only for a period of time, otherwise the devil will use that to keep you apart.)
The reality? Out of everyone I know, the married people have the suckiest sex lives. Why are the single people having all the good sex? Doesn’t that go against what the Bible says?
The reason: Sex takes work. Sex is complicated. Sex takes both of you (Tweet This!).
Most men can get over things pretty quickly. If Jeanette and I fight, I can get over it and make up in minutes and be totally fine to have sex that night. Women aren’t so quick. Their emotions are involved and they tend to put up some more walls then most men. If those walls stay up, then guys, there is no way it’s happening tonight.
So, Let’s answer this question: Why doesn’t my wife want to have sex with me?
Here are a few reasons I’ve seen. I don’t know your spouse and your situation, but if I had to guess, it’s one or two of the following things.
1. She’s had a bad experience with sex in the past that she’s never worked through. This could be how she lost her virginity. This could be a situation involving abuse or rape at a younger age. She thought marriage would solve this, but these issues have never been addressed thoroughly and have caused her to just not be interested. My gut is that if you could help her process some of these things or encourage some counseling, then that could be a great start to help her find the healing she needs.
2. She feels guilty. I was taught growing up that sex was bad. We couldn’t do it and it was off limits. Then one day at 22 I got married and it went from a lifelong RED light to a GREEN light in one day. That’s a tough mental switch to make, and a lot of women still feel that sex is dirty and a bad thing not understanding it is a gift from God. Talk through this stuff. Talk about sex being a great thing. Something to celebrate.
3. She doesn’t enjoy it. Sorry guys… Let’s just be honest. I’m not saying you have a small penis. Most women don’t care about the size. Its more than that. We live in a world where sex with your self (masturbation) has become the norm, and most men bring this into their marriage.Masturbation has taught you one thing: how you like it. It leaves something out: her (Tweet This!)
You get off in your favorite position and think sex is all about what you like. If you approach sex like that? Guess what: she won’t enjoy it. She wants you on top not just behind her all the time. I met a guy whose wife hadn’t had an orgasm in 10 years of having sex. That’s a problem! My suggestion was to communicate. Listen to her. Let her be involved in what she likes, how she likes it, and let her reach orgasm. Don’t believe the lie that says women don’t need to have an orgasm every time. Really work to achieve this together and if not at the same time make sure both of you have the option. (Oh, and one last bit of advice: quit trying to stick it in her butt.) -Tweet This!
4. You only touch her when you want sex. I am not going to bore you with the crock pot vs. the microwave analogy, because I think you’ve probably already heard that. Women need to be touched, kissed, and hugged all the time, not just when you want action. This will go far. Trust me.
5. She’s too tired. My wife loves to have sex and I think we have a great sex life. I am going to recommend trying to have sex every other day. I have been married 15 years and that is an expectation and goal we both have set. I love 9pm-1am. They’re my best, most productive hours of the day because no one is awake in my house and my phone or email are not getting blown up. My wife is done after about 9pm. So, we put our kids down early so we make sure we have time to connect but I know even though she would like to have sex, if we get too late into the evening, it’s not going to happen. Guys, you might have to get on her schedule.
6. Her walls are up. These are the walls I talked about earlier. Some of them might not have anything to do with you, but some of them sure do. Guys, we’re stupid. We have no clue that something we said this morning pissed off our wives and they are still upset, or how you’ve been treating her all week or all month or your whole marriage has forced her to build up walls between you. Pay attention to her. Look for signals and ask. Don’t avoid conflict because it is tough. Run towards resolution and get in the sack. The devil is laughing when us married folks sleep in separate beds.
7. She’s insecure about her body. We live in a world of porn, swimsuit issues, and Victoria’s secret. Most women know they can’t compete with the images of the women we have in our visual hard drive. Have you told her you loved her? Have you told her she is beautiful? Have you told her she is sexy and you still get excited when she steps out of the shower naked? Show her, tell her, and keep the lights on once in a while during sex so you can remind her that you love looking at her.
8.  You don’t initiate it. Call me old school, but the Bible says it’s a husband’s responsibility to lead their wives, and this area is no different. It’s worth it. Stop playing games and seeing how many times you initiate sex compared to how many times she does or doesn’t. You start looking at porn to get what you need and then your sex life is non-existent. If you’re not having sex, then you’re probably masturbating and looking at porn and she probably knows it. Just so you know, the longer men go without sex, the more they desire it, and the longer women go without sex, the more they don’t need it. So you see the problem there. That is getting you nowhere. You lead. You initiate. And when she does initiate, never turn her down.
Okay, that’s all I have right now. There might be more, but my plane is landing and I have to turn off my computer. If you and you wife aren’t having sex and nothing on this list resonates with you, then talk together about what’s going on. Don’t be afraid of that conversation. Don’t avoid it either.
Now get in bed.

For some reason, we live in a world where it seems like the stereotype for married people and sex is that men need it and women don’t want to cough it up. I don’t know how that happened, but in my marriage, sex is a two-way street. It takes both of you to make it work and it is mutually beneficial for both parities.

I hear women hold sex over a lot of men’s head and I just laugh. Just because women aren’t as visual as men doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy sex as much as men.

Sex is a gift to be enjoyed. The Bible pretty much says that married folks should be having sex and lots of it. (No, really it says that the only time to refrain from sex is for a period of time for fasting and praying and that is only for a period of time, otherwise the devil will use that to keep you apart.)

The reality? Out of everyone I know, the married people have the suckiest sex lives. Why are the single people having all the good sex? Doesn’t that go against what the Bible says?

The reason: Sex takes work. Sex is complicated. Sex takes both of you (Tweet This!).

Most men can get over things pretty quickly. If Jeanette and I fight, I can get over it and make up in minutes and be totally fine to have sex that night. Women aren’t so quick. Their emotions are involved and they tend to put up some more walls then most men. If those walls stay up, then guys, there is no way it’s happening tonight.

So, Let’s answer this question: Why doesn’t my wife want to have sex with me?

Here are a few reasons I’ve seen. I don’t know your spouse and your situation, but if I had to guess, it’s one or two of the following things.

1. She’s had a bad experience with sex in the past that she’s never worked through. This could be how she lost her virginity. This could be a situation involving abuse or rape at a younger age. She thought marriage would solve this, but these issues have never been addressed thoroughly and have caused her to just not be interested. My gut is that if you could help her process some of these things or encourage some counseling, then that could be a great start to help her find the healing she needs.

2. She feels guilty. I was taught growing up that sex was bad. We couldn’t do it and it was off limits. Then one day at 22 I got married and it went from a lifelong RED light to a GREEN light in one day. That’s a tough mental switch to make, and a lot of women still feel that sex is dirty and a bad thing not understanding it is a gift from God. Talk through this stuff. Talk about sex being a great thing. Something to celebrate.

3. She doesn’t enjoy it. Sorry guys… Let’s just be honest. I’m not saying you have a small penis. Most women don’t care about the size. Its more than that. We live in a world where sex with your self (masturbation) has become the norm, and most men bring this into their marriage.Masturbation has taught you one thing: how you like it. It leaves something out: her (Tweet This!)

You get off in your favorite position and think sex is all about what you like. If you approach sex like that? Guess what: she won’t enjoy it. She wants you on top not just behind her all the time. I met a guy whose wife hadn’t had an orgasm in 10 years of having sex. That’s a problem! My suggestion was to communicate. Listen to her. Let her be involved in what she likes, how she likes it, and let her reach orgasm. Don’t believe the lie that says women don’t need to have an orgasm every time. Really work to achieve this together and if not at the same time make sure both of you have the option. (Oh, and one last bit of advice: quit trying to stick it in her butt.) -Tweet This!

4. You only touch her when you want sex. I am not going to bore you with the crock pot vs. the microwave analogy, because I think you’ve probably already heard that. Women need to be touched, kissed, and hugged all the time, not just when you want action. This will go far. Trust me.

5. She’s too tired. My wife loves to have sex and I think we have a great sex life. I am going to recommend trying to have sex every other day. I have been married 15 years and that is an expectation and goal we both have set. I love 9pm-1am. They’re my best, most productive hours of the day because no one is awake in my house and my phone or email are not getting blown up. My wife is done after about 9pm. So, we put our kids down early so we make sure we have time to connect but I know even though she would like to have sex, if we get too late into the evening, it’s not going to happen. Guys, you might have to get on her schedule.

6. Her walls are up. These are the walls I talked about earlier. Some of them might not have anything to do with you, but some of them sure do. Guys, we’re stupid. We have no clue that something we said this morning pissed off our wives and they are still upset, or how you’ve been treating her all week or all month or your whole marriage has forced her to build up walls between you. Pay attention to her. Look for signals and ask. Don’t avoid conflict because it is tough. Run towards resolution and get in the sack. The devil is laughing when us married folks sleep in separate beds.

7. She’s insecure about her body. We live in a world of porn, swimsuit issues, and Victoria’s secret. Most women know they can’t compete with the images of the women we have in our visual hard drive. Have you told her you loved her? Have you told her she is beautiful? Have you told her she is sexy and you still get excited when she steps out of the shower naked? Show her, tell her, and keep the lights on once in a while during sex so you can remind her that you love looking at her.

8.  You don’t initiate it. Call me old school, but the Bible says it’s a husband’s responsibility to lead their wives, and this area is no different. It’s worth it. Stop playing games and seeing how many times you initiate sex compared to how many times she does or doesn’t. You start looking at porn to get what you need and then your sex life is non-existent. If you’re not having sex, then you’re probably masturbating and looking at porn and she probably knows it. Just so you know, the longer men go without sex, the more they desire it, and the longer women go without sex, the more they don’t need it. So you see the problem there. That is getting you nowhere. You lead. You initiate. And when she does initiate, never turn her down.

Okay, that’s all I have right now. There might be more, but my plane is landing and I have to turn off my computer. If you and you wife aren’t having sex and nothing on this list resonates with you, then talk together about what’s going on. Don’t be afraid of that conversation. Don’t avoid it either.

Now get in bed.

I’m Really Not A Christian

It’s still April Fools Right? So, if you know me you know I am joking and it is April 1st. Or maybe it’s not a joke because according to my emails, facebook comments and twitter replies I am not a christian.

Let me explain. 

I started looking at Facebook and Twitter replies and then checked some other email accounts that hardly ever get checked. I noticed that a lot of people get upset when people share their opinion on a public platform. I shared some thoughts last week about a movie called #NOAH and it has made quiet a few people upset.

Fox News

Christian Post

Relevant

My Blog

These people will track you down and even though they have no platform to share their opinion they will invade yours or just blow up your email. I thought I would share a few because on XXXchurch.com we have made our hate mail public so since now I am getting personal hate mail I thought I would share it. I think it is all comical ( and it’s April Fools Day) and I have fired back at people with some humorous things. I have even been called out by my language at some replies because of course Christians can’t cuss but we can threaten people and say really hateful things as long as we don’t say shit.

My wife doesn’t find it funny like me and actually gets scared by some of these crazies. Anyways, if you are like me… you might enjoy some of this. Here is just a sample:

So FOX highlighted this part of your opinion: “It’s embarrassing to belong to a faith that attracts a group of people who always have to be right, and when something pushes them just a bit, they want to shut it down or keep people away.” It seems that your opinion on this movie shows Christians as whiny, inflexible children who don’t get their way? I haven’t seen the movie, but I am glad that some in this faith stand up for truth, who are not tossed to and fro, and don’t value the Luciferian Hollywood helping us to understand our Bible. Your opinion will reach thousands of people, where is the fear of the Lord Craig? Being on the side of Hollywood vs. whiny Christians will prove you were on the wrong side of history. 

(I learned a new word “Luciferian Hollywood in this one)

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If being a Christian embarrasses you, as you stated in your article about Noah, then perhaps you’re really not a Christian. And by the way, it’s not about us always “being right”, it’s about God always being right. Don’t be fooled by Hollywood into thinking that any publicity for the Bible is good publicity. I’m not embarrassed by Christians, just by the ones that are pretending to be.

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I agree, I don’t think you’re a Christian either. And what you wrote is kind of stupid. Agreed.

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(I especially enjoy this guy’s use of CAPS)

Dear Mr. Gross,

Re: FOX News Opinion Piece entitled “A message for my fellow Christians: chill out, ‘Noah’ is just a movie”

You first tell us of the movies you watched this past year, and none of them are based upon a BIBLE STORY. All of which were controversial and arguably grossly inaccurate in numerous ways.

Aronofsky has been interviewed and is CLEARLY disdainful of ANYTHING “religious,” so making this movie was his way of thumbing his nose at ALL OF US.

If you’re that much into supporting those who would destroy ALL OF US AND OUR FAITH, please don’t put out condescending “Opinion” pieces to help bring down the REST OF US WITH YOU.  I realize drowning men often do this; pull others down with the if they’re too close, but please refrain from doing so in the FUTURE.  I do not appreciate being condescended to or told to “chill out” about the VERY REAL nature of Aronofsky’s vicious motives as it regards this movie. If you want shove your head into the sand, so be it, but you have ZERO right to attempt to use your ‘position’ of bully pulpit to BELITTLE THE REST OF US.  If you aren’t aware of it, Christians are being SLAUGHTERED across the WORLD right now. We are having OUR LIBERTIES right here in the US infringed upon, and then YOU do this???  You are reprehensible!

You ask a NUMBER OF QUESTIONS - apparently ALL rhetorical since comments were TURNED OFF for the opinion piece. PLAIN COWARDLY AND CONDESCENDING.

Don’t ask questions if you don’t want answers.

Do not condescend to me or others as we will SHUT YOU OFF AND OUT: ALWAYS. GUARANTEED.

I will remember YOU Craig Gross, but don’t EVER expect to see our business at ANY establishment where you hang your hat.

Good day.

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Yeah, I’m that ‘dumb,’ moron.

You have no business trying to call yourself a “Christian” of any kind, and you’re not even worthy to suck air, blowhard

It’s you who need to stay inside and lock your doors because it’s the USEFUL IDIOTS LIKE YOU who they will come for first!

Good luck with that, but stop trying to make like you speak for ANYONE BUT YOURSELF, you egotistical jerk!

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God Hates Hate - Reflection of My Time With Fred Phelps

During the Jesus Loves You book tour, Jason Harper & I spent an afternoon behind the mysterious compound fence that separates the Phelps from the outside world. Shirley L. Phelps-Roper hosted a tour for us into their sign making shop and allowed us to jump on the family trampoline. Jason  & I were fond of Megan Phelps-Roper who later left Westboro Baptist Church.

We had interviewed Shirley on our XXXchurch podcast before and she was always quite the character but we had no idea what it would be like if we showed up there. They were super kind to us and went out of their way to spend time with us. I have actually never believed all the hate messages that they spread. I think it is just an act but that is just my opinion. I just found the video on youtube from our trip. We got to listen to Fred preach and see inside the compound.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q8lB0pZ4BBE

Since hearing of Fred’s  death- I’ve reflected on what I saw. The Casserole for Fred Phelps in the Huntington Post is the best thing I have read.  

If you want to check out Jesus Loves You book. We wrote a whole chapter on the fact that Jesus Loves The Religious and I just found out you can buy the book on Amazon for $.001 right now. My buddy bought a copy at Ross as well. That should tell you how popular that book was with christians but I think it was one of the best things I have written.